Online empowerment is no surprise to anyone. Every day there is a new website that comes up, addressing the most diverse interests: fashion, beauty or both, catering, fitness, outbursts, thoughts and emotions, personal, impersonal, etc. The sky – or in this case digital space – is really unlimited. The interests are varied, and, whether you like it or not, the commercials win. But what drives a mother to create such a public space as online can be, where children are the main content? Are these such business interests or do emotions speak even louder?
Marcia D'Orey, 36, did not create Minnie Mars for the purpose of being a maternity-focused Instagram account – even though her two daughters, Juju and Pi, as they are known, take up almost 100 percent of the feed. "(The account) is a continuation of what I have always done since I was very young. I kept a diary a year with messages, stickers and details that made it possible to relive the moments." It is then that haunts me the memory of the (good old) days when a diary was a locked block with seven keys, where neither parents nor friends, even the closest, could come close. From the days when a diary was secret, personal and non-transferable. The same is not true of an Instagram account. As much control as one may wish and believed to have in theory, what happens is that as soon as an image or text is published it becomes a reality in the vastness of digital space. Still about the diaries of old, I remember not only having them, but especially burning them as soon as I filled the last page and prepared to move on to the next. On the Internet, there is no fire that ignites what has already been created. But there are other purposes behind the creation of digital spaces based on personal and / or children's lives – as both can be included in the same category. Catarina Ferreira, 31, opened her Ties space seven years ago. With two children under the age of two (now with four children), I had finished a painting course and was at a time when I needed to communicate: "I was 24, my friends had no children yet. and we were in a mismatched life. The blog was a very personal space, published in a very spontaneous way for family and friends, even though it was public. I wrote almost a logbook, I could talk freely about bad nights or going out. to the park, which had been so good, or the latest achievements or thanks from the kids. The blog worked as a company and a tool that helped me make more sense of what I was living. " The Ties space was born at a time when blogs of all kinds sprang up from the ground, and Catarina quickly realized that it was read by others and that what she wrote and photographed made sense to others. "From this point until it became a blog from mother to mothers was an eternity," he explains. Despite the name A Mãe Já Vai, Maria Ana Ferro's 38-year-old blog was not born to be a maternity-focused site, but rather a partnership between the author and a fitness-related space called the Fhit Unit – Personal training, whose goal would be, with the accompaniment of a personal trainer, to show people that it was possible to lead a normal family routine and, at the same time, a healthy lifestyle. "Motherhood and the most personal themes were gaining momentum. When I became pregnant with my third child I left the exercise, but the issues related to motherhood and everything around them were always spontaneous and constant, so the blog kept going. "
Better to prevent …
"The issue of using pictures of children on the Internet (social networks, blogs, websites) is, for these days and increasingly, an issue that needs to be thoroughly and consciously analyzed. In particular by parents, but also for all those who somehow have responsibilities in the education of children (family members, teachers and legal representatives). " The words come from André Queiroga, a lawyer specializing in Internet Law, Information Technology and Data Protection, who guarantees that simple publication of photographs on social networks "was synonymous with broken marriages, termination of employment, misuse by third parties (pedophiles). ), etc." The lawyer asserts that this concept of privacy, due to the widespread use of social networks, "is currently a matter of societal concern, as the existing history has clearly demonstrated the dangers and harmful consequences that privacy violations have on the lives of women." people (and children in particular) ". The lawyer told Máxima that "in the context of the new data protection law, which will be published very soon (as a result of the General Data Protection Regulation which will apply from 25 May 2018 throughout consent of holders of parental responsibility for their personal data (children), where the direct provision of information society services to minors 13 years of age is required ". The author of Minnie Mars, who in the meantime has decided to merge the privacy of her public-private account, confirms a few dangers: "Unfortunately, a photograph of me breastfeeding my daughter was placed without my permission, in a well-known account in a totally inappropriate context. It was quickly resolved with several apologies, but I confess that I questioned everything and that, at that moment, my world froze ", he says. For the same reason, Marcia D'Orey decided to redouble the care with who can enter her virtual home: "I chose to control even more, closing the account when I go to sleep and only reopen it when I wake up … hours of the day, deep down when I know I can always be attentive. " According to the expert on Internet Law, Computer Science and Data Protection, this caution is not enough since, as we all know, "once we share a photograph on the Internet we never have control over it (given that public domain), which means that anyone anywhere in the world can, directly or indirectly, have access to it and use it as they see fit. In other words, we leave a huge footprint that we can hardly or never erase ". The author of A Mãe Já Vai chooses not to show the faces of her children in her publications. When asked whether this choice is (or not) a way of protecting the image of the three children, she explains not: "My children are not a state secret. If one day they show their face, no problem. Creating a blog has to be a family decision if there are children involved. They are not our property. And in our case it was like this: decided between my husband and me. " He says that his decision not to show faces was based on a matter of the type of content that prioritizes writing: "The big reason (blogging) was to write about them, but without falling into the daily temptation to show them in their routines. "I like to write, and images sometimes take away from us. So to get an idea or a message across, I really have to spend words and that's good." Ties mentor Catarina Ferreira says she has never been frightened and that when asked the question of the imminent dangers of the Internet, her answer is that "pedophilia and kidnapping exist even before there are blogs with exposed children", saying that can see how these subjects can touch. This mother of four confesses to feeling that "there is a poorly founded hysterism on this subject." Hysterically or without hysterism, he acknowledges that he has already thought of closing the bill by reading comments of "ordinary anonymous" in his space: "This, yes, is the darker side, where many sick heads live," he says. And it is essential to protect the image of children and to avoid exposing any kind of photographs, particularly those related to nudity, even if partial. Not least, he says, is "protecting children's privacy: the details of their growth, some disturbances, the most difficult times (which we all know exist)." The instagramer Márcia D´Orey assumes to be "well known" for her daily stories, where, she admits, exposes herself a lot and shows much of her world. Another of the tactics he uses to protect himself, as well as his two young daughters, is to always check who comes in, who follows, and assures, "they are rarely men." Basically, he explains: "It's like in my house… I always peek at the lock before opening the door. I'm very selective, I'm not looking for many followers, but have the right people around me. Admitting that it takes work and is lost a lot. time to check, but it's the only way to control who sees it. And it works. "
Sharing is caring?
Sharing or not sharing is the question that arises at a time when the world lives with its eyes exposed in the digital. The line separating the private from the public is as thin as the time it takes to make a print screen: a second, roughly. And if in adults this reality has raised a number of questions of various kinds – the psychological one being the most debated, since the notion of the limits of what should be public has definitely been lost from what should not pass the barrier private – in children the urgency has even given rise to a name. We refer to the term sharenting (share + parenting) or oversharenting, …
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